It’s a test of skill, patience and desire. It goes both ways…he, a face fucker, you ride em cow girl. (Don’t let him try to suck your clit off ladies! THE Cardinal sin fellas)
This is one of the most beautiful images of deep throating I have ever found. The trick is to relax. Want to bless your partner? Then don’t think about it, just let it happen. Getting high with your partner, trusting each other and letting the saliva flow will definitely dazzle your playmate. Guys, if your partner seems like they “can’t” do it…maybe that means they don’t want to yet. You need to show them how it’s done by administering the love acts on them first. This can be a scary moment for some at first…but once you break down your barriers…fun ensues. Not to mention a sense of accomplishment.
One of my gynecology patients approached me this week to ask about her “V-pourri,” the scent emanating from her nether regions. When I was writing my bookWhat’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend, I got so many questions about how coochies smell that I was inspired to write a whole chapter about it.
With nicknames like “Fish Taco,” it’s no wonder we freak out. Many women I meet absolutely despise their vaginas, as if they completely buy into whatever childhood messages they were fed about how the vagina is “dirty” and “bad.” For these women, any odor wafting up from down there acts as a big stinky banner of how much they hate their girlness. With vagina nicknames such as “fish taco,” “crotch mackerel,” “cod canal,” “fish factory,” “fuzzy lap flounder,” “tuna town,” and “raw oyster,” it’s no wonder we worry about how we smell. But I say it’s time to change all that. Why should we hate what’s normal, healthy, and part of the rich female experience?
One of the most common questions people ask me regarding what it’s like to be a gynecologist is, “Doesn’t it stink?” They wrinkle their noses, furrow their brows, and raise eyebrows, as if there’s something wrong with me for loving my job. Lying underneath that question I often see something that borders on misogyny, as if women are nothing more than a vaginal odor to be avoided. From the time we’re children, we’re taught that normal bodily functions are “yucky.” Pee, poop, and privates all elicit a “pee-yew,” so it’s no wonder we grow up obsessed with how we smell.
Vaginas Are SUPPOSED To Smell!
Ladies, vaginas are supposed to smell. Let me quote my heroine, Eve Ensler, the Queen of Vaginas, whose Vagina Monologues have done as much for the vagina as Martin Luther King, Jr. did for civil rights:
My vagina doesn’t need to be cleaned up. It smells good already. Don’t try to decorate. Don’t believe him when he tells you it smells like rose petals when it’s supposed to smell like pussy. That’s what they’re doing — trying to clean it up, make it smell like bathroom spray or a garden. All those douche sprays — floral, berry, rain. I don’t want my pussy to smell like rain. All cleaned up like washing a fish after you cook it. I want to taste the fish. That’s why I ordered it.
Amen, sister. It’s supposed to smell like pussy. Sure, hygiene plays a role, and just like washing your pits and your feet, cleaning yourself down there is part of being an accepted member of society (not to mention being a conscientious sexual partner). Most women even shower, shave, and primp a bit before visiting the gynecologist. I often notice wafts of perfume emanating from the nether regions. I appreciate the respect and notice the effort, but really, it’s not necessary. We gynecologists are not as sensitive as you might imagine.
What Should You Smell Like?
So how is the vagina supposed to smell? It depends. When you’re straight out of the shower, your coochie may have no smell at all. When you’ve just finished running a marathon, it may have a strong musky odor from all the sweat glands. When you’re menstruating or giving birth, the flinty-iron smell of blood prevails. When yeast overgrows in the vagina, you may smell like freshly baked-bread or a good malt beer. Right after you’ve had intercourse, you may smell faintly bleach-like, as semen has a classic odor of its own. And when certain normal bacteria overgrow, they release amines that smell — yup, you guessed it — like fish.
Every vagina has its own special smell — a combination of the normal bacteria that live in your vagina, what you eat, how you dress, your level of hygiene, your bowel habits, how much you sweat, and what your glands secrete. Remember that the glands near the vagina also secrete pheromones, meant to attract a sexual partner. So you don’t want to deodorize your va-jay-jay so much that it smells like rain. Doing so thwarts the primal function of what your smell is supposed to accomplish. Plus, it interferes with the vagina’s natural pH balance and can lead to a whole host of gynecological conditions.
So own your odor, girlfriends. Sure, if you’re worried, see a gynecologist to make sure your vagina is healthy and normal. But as long as everything’s kosher down there, accept that your coochie smells exactly how it’s supposed to smell.
Want to Know More About Your V-Pourri?
Here are some questions I answer in What’s Up Down There:
- My crotch gets extra funky sometimes. Not to quote a douche commercial, but why do I have that not-so-fresh feeling down there?
- Aside from douching, are there natural things you can do to make your vagina smell more fresh?
- What should I do if my partner doesn’t like to go down on me?
You’ll find the empowering and reassuring answers to these questions and more in What’s Up Down There: Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend.
Three cheers for vaginas,
Dr. Lissa Rankin is an OB/GYN physician, an author, a nationally-represented professional artist, and the founder of Owning Pink, an online community committed to building authentic community and empowering women to get — and keep — their “mojo.” Owning Pink is all about owning all the facets of what makes you whole — your health, your sexuality, your spirituality, your creativity, your career, your relationships, the planet, and YOU. Dr. Rankin is currently redefining women’s health at the Owning Pink Center, her practice in Mill Valley, California.