Enjoy your breasts

 

 

Your boobs are wily little seductresses. They poke proactively out of bikini tops, peek over lacy push-up bras, and flaunt their fabulousness naked in bed—turning any red-blooded heterosexual male into a panting pile of mush.

But what most women don’t realize is that their boobs can give them heaps of satisfaction too. “The majority of research is geared toward keeping breasts healthy, and not nearly enough is known about how women can enjoy their breasts during sex,” says Debby Herbenick, Ph. D., a sexual-health educator at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University.

The truth is, your boobs play an important role in pleasing both of you. These six moves will help you double your pleasure and ensure they’re not left out of the fun.

Cuddle up

When your partner caresses your breasts, your brain releases a warm and fuzzy chemical into your bloodstream called oxytocin, says Beverly Whipple, Ph. D., professor emerita at Rutgers University. This powerful love hormone, also triggered by hugging and orgasm, fosters a strong bonding feeling between you and your partner.

To maximize its effect, while you’re on top, have your guy sit up and wrap your arms around his neck, pressing your breasts into his chest. Or, while in missionary, pull him toward you until your nipples graze his chest and focus on synchronizing your breathing. This touching and heaving at the same time will boost intimacy, and—because arousal increases blood flow—your breasts will feel warm, making your embrace feel even cozier.

Tease them

The same way a guy can become erect just like that, a woman’s breasts can stand at attention sans direct contact. In fact, the mere suggestion of sexual touch can fire off pleasurable sensations in your breasts. To make your hills come alive without actually touching them, “have your guy rest his fingertips lightly on your sternum (the middle of your chest), then move them toward either breast, drawing light circles over the entire area,” says Jaiya, co-author of Red Hot Touch. His barely there caress will stimulate the microscopic hairs on your boobs and the fine-touch nerves under the skin’s surface, creating bliss-inducing shivers.

Relish new sensations

Your man may be good with his hands, but encourage him to touch your chest with something less expected once in a while. The feel of soft jersey sheets, cool body lotion, or even silky fabric can make sex more thrilling. “Introducing various types of sensation adds a new feel to ordinary touch,” says Ian Kerner, Ph. D., author of She Comes First. During sex, have him rub your breasts with a pair of silk underwear, tickle your nipples with a feather, or smooth hand cream all over your girls. And don’t overlook the benefits his body can bring. Press your boobs into his smooth back, or dangle them over his face during girl on top, tracing them over his nose, cheekbones, and lips—or just glide his penis across your chest.

 

Focus above the areola

Those nipples, always hogging the spotlight. But they’re actually not the most sensitive region of the chest. The flesh directly above the areola (the colored skin surrounding the nipple) is the real star of the show. “We think of nipples as primary erogenous zones—which they are, to a degree—but that’s partially because they’re so visible,” Jaiya says. “However, studies have shown that women feel more pleasurable sensations above them.”

Have your guy rub the 10 o’clock to two o’clock zones with an ice cube, then blow hot air on the wet parts for head-to-toe chills. Or, while in missionary, he can use the tip of his tongue to lick circles around the area, slowly moving down to your nipple and areola (the second most sensitive zone on your breast). The pressure from his tongue will activate a tiny muscle just beneath the surface that flips on your headlights so he can then flick them ever so gently with his tongue.

Get wet

Mix things up by hopping in the shower with your guy and turning the faucet to hot (but not scorching). The heat brings blood to the skin’s surface and elevates body temperature, both of which make your skin more sensitive to the touch, says Sandor Gardos, Ph. D., founder of mypleasure.com, an online sex-toy store. Then have your guy soap up your breasts. The feeling of his hands slipping and sliding all over your boobs combined with the hot water will get both your libidos racing. Also consider experimenting with the settings on your shower head—the pulsate function will provide direct, massaging pressure, while a lighter one will feel more soothing. Not in the mood for a shower? Having your guy massage your breasts with a steamy wet towel will reap similar benefits.

Maximize your size

Your breasts may be his go-to spot on your bod, but how often do you luxuriate in the sensuality of your own curves? Never? Well, you’re missing out. “Some women don’t take the opportunity to relish their breasts during sex (or solo sex), especially if they’re self-conscious about their cup size,” Kerner says. But guess what—all women, regardless of bra size, have the same amount of nerve endings and feel an equal amount of pleasure–and experts say boobs can grow up to 25 percent bigger when aroused.

The trick is to tailor the type of touch to your size. In general, women with larger breasts can handle a slightly firmer grip because they have more fatty tissue. So when you’re on top, cup your boobs, lift them slightly, and squeeze. Feeling their full weight can be a huge turn-on. If you have a smaller set, push your breasts together with the sides of your arms to create eye-popping cleavage. Or, while you’re in the spoon position, reach up and feel them jiggle with every thrust.

Read more: http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/sex-tips-2

 

5 Things You Didn’t Know About Masturbation

5 things about masturbation women may not know:

1. “Normal” masturbation in women takes many forms.

Most women, like men, have masturbated at least once in their lives, research suggests. Frequency varies, and there’s no “normal” for that. There’s no ”normal” cutoff age, either, with the practice continuing into the 80s and beyond.

Women may feel guilty about it, especially if they are in a committed relationship, but there’s no need for guilt, sex therapists say. Sometimes a partner could just be tired, out of town, or otherwise unavailable.

There is no one “method” of masturbation in women that’s normal. “A range of ways is ‘normal,”’ says Paul Joannides, PsyD, a psychoanalyst in Waldport, Ore.

Fingers and vibrators are two common methods of women’s masturbation. More than half of 2,056 women, aged 18 to 60, used a vibrator either during masturbation or intercourse, says Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH, associate director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, Bloomington, who led the survey.

Other women who masturbate report they use the back of a vibrating toothbrushhead, the handle of a hairbrush, or water jets in the bathtub, Joannides says.

Although some experts worry about side effects from vibrator use, such as genital numbness or pain, less than 30% of the women in Herbenick’s vibrator survey said they had experienced them.

But another expert, Frank Sommers, MD, a Toronto psychiatrist, worries that excessive vibrator use during masturbation could desensitize women to orgasms with a partner. “I tell my patients, ‘Look on a vibrator as whipped cream — you wouldn’t want to eat it every day.’’’

He believes too much vibrator use ‘’habituates your autonomic nervous system to such stimulation that a human could not duplicate it.”

2. Masturbation can improve your mood — without the ”obligations” of partnered sex.

However a woman chooses to masturbate, it can improve her spirits. “It can improve a depressed mood,” says Kathleen Segraves, PhD, a sex therapist and associate professor of psychiatry at Case Western Reserve University and a therapist at Metrohealth Medical Center in Cleveland, Ohio. “Not clinical depression, but the ‘blue funk’ days.”

“With solo sex, there is no distraction, and you can focus on your own experience without making sure someone else is having a good time,” she says.

It doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner, maybe just that you need to think only about yourself sometimes, experts say. “The woman doesn’t have to be outside her head, wondering, ‘Am I taking too long?'” Segraves says.

3. Masturbation can improve your sex life with your partner.

Women who masturbate on a regular basis learn what feels good for them, Segraves says. “It helps build sexual confidence,” she says. “It helps you guide the partner when you have a partner.”

You can say, for instance: “Please put your hand here,” and not be embarrassed, she says.

Women who use a vibrator during masturbation tend to have better sexual functioning with a partner, Herbenick says.

Sex therapists typically recommend masturbation for women who have a difficult time reaching orgasm. It can help them learn about their body and feel less self-conscious.

“We know that women compared to men have a harder time learning to orgasm,” Herbenick says. Masturbating can help, and masturbating with a vibrator may help even more, she says. “Using a vibrator, for reasons we don’t understand, helps women orgasm.” The survey is published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Those who used a vibrator, she found, even if it had been a year since the last use, “had better sexual functioning in terms of vaginal lubrication, desire, arousal, and ease of orgasm, and they tended to have less pain or discomfort during intercourse.”

But “it may be that those who don’t find sex painful tend to use a vibrator,” she says.

4. Masturbation can help you relax.

Women are more apt than men to over-analyze a bad day and think: “How could I have done this better?” They are more likely than men, some researchers have found, to replay an argument or bad interaction with people in their head. It all adds up to excess stress.

Researchers call this rumination, and it has been linked in numerous studies to depression.

“If you can start pleasuring yourself, that will often interfere with ruminations,” Segraves says. “Not all the time,” she says. But it may help.

5. Masturbation can provide pain relief.

Women who masturbate often report that it helps relieve menstrual cramps and to improve the symptoms of premenstrual syndrome (PMS or PMDD), such as irritability and crankiness.

Masturbating to orgasm may help migraine, too. Although orgasm has sometimes been found to trigger a migraine headache, it may also relieve it, according to some research. Scientists speculate that some factor associated with orgasm (by yourself or with a partner) may suppress pain or actually suppress the migraine process.

via Female Masturbation: Understanding Vibrators, Orgasms, and Self-Pleasure for Women.