Aug 11, 2011 | By Ken Chisholm
An Orgasm is Good For You!
According to JAMA (the Journal of the American Medical Association), 43 percent of American women suffer from some form of “Female Sexual Dysfunction”–often placing the blame on themselves for their inability to reach orgasm. Stop blaming yourself. If you are alone, masturbation will help you find what feels right for you. If you have a partner, talk to him. Often, the clitoris is under-stimulated during sexual intercourse–which is what prevents many women from having an orgasm. If you have orgasms due to your cervix being stimulated, tell your partner this (or whatever else does it for you).
Orgasms relieve tension! The faster heartbeat, the increased blood flow and the muscular tautness associated with sexual pleasure all come to a relaxing conclusion with an orgasm, and in the process relieve tensions pent up in your nervous system.
Orgasms help you sleep better. While an orgasm is followed in the male by a quick drop in blood pressure and sudden relaxation, the effect on women is more progressive, but no less important. Orgasms act as a natural tranquilizer. That wonderful release of endorphins is very calming.
Orgasms calm your cravings for junk food, and sometimes for cigarettes. Sexual stimulation activates the production of phenetylamine, a kind of natural amphetamine that regulates your appetite. So before you pig out, maybe you should go to your room. 🙂
Orgasms burn calories.
Orgasms can work as natural pain management. If you have ever noticed yourself forgetting about a headache or menstrual cramps while masturbating or having sex, it is not simply a psychological phenomenon. Endorphins (natural compounds that are close to morphine) are released by your body during sex, and can increase your tolerance of pain by as much as 70 percent during orgasm. This will vary from person to person. (If you are in the hospital, forget trying this, due to the lack of privacy.)
What’s The Difference Between Clitoral and Vaginal Orgasms?
The difference between a “clitoral” and a “vaginal” orgasm lies in where you are being stimulated to achieve orgasm, not where you feel the orgasm. This may clear up some of the confusion around this common question. The clitoris has a central role in elevating feelings of sexual tension. During sexual excitement, the clitoris swells and changes position. The blood vessels throughout the entire pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and creating a feeling a fullness and sexual sensitivity. Your inner vaginal lips swell and change shape. Your vagina balloons upward and your uterus shifts position in your pelvis.
For some women, the outer third of their vagina and the cervix are also very sensitive, or even more sensitive than the clitoris. When these areas are stimulated during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, these women can have intense orgasms. This would be what is referred to as a vaginal orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Sigmund Freud made a pronouncement that the “mature” woman has orgasms only when her vagina, but not her clitoris, is stimulated. This, of course, made the man’s penis central to a woman’s sexual satisfaction. Many sexual-health experts still disagree about any actual female ejaculation, although you will find plenty of websites that want to teach you how to bring this about for a fee; here, you can check it out for free. For more on the often misunderstood G-spot, see that page.
In reality, orgasms are a very individual experience, and there is no one correct pattern of sexual response. Whatever feels wonderful to you, makes you feel alive and happy and connected with your partner is what matters.
Last updated on: Aug 11, 2011
By Josey Vogels
April 18, 2009
SexPot: Want to Have Great Sex? Smoke a Joint
Marijuana has been used as an aphrodisiac for thousands of years. So what exactly is it about weed that turns people on?
Marijuana has been used as an aphrodisiac for thousands of years.
The ancient Indian Ayurvedic medicine systems used cannabis to increase libido, produce long-lasting erections, delay ejaculation, facilitate lubrication and loosen inhibitions.
Some Tantric sex practitioners drink a substance called bhang, a sort of spiced marijuana milkshake to enhance the sexual experience. According to one source, Indian prostitutes eat bhang sherbet to help them feel sexually aroused.
In 19th century Serbia, female virgins were given mixtures of lamb’s fat and cannabis on their wedding night to make sex less painful. Morocco, Egypt, Lebanon and other Middle Eastern and Northern African cultures used cannabis for sexual purposes in a potent form known at kif as recently as the early 20th century.
So what exactly is it about weed that turns people on?
Besides the obvious: it heightens your senses, relaxes you and makes you feel hyper connected, there are also physiological effects.
Along with an increased heart rate, changes in blood flow and respiration, according to William Novak, author of the 1980 tome, High Culture: Marijuana in the Lives of Americans, “Neurochemistry, hormonal systems and brain regions such as the temporal lobe are affected by both marijuana and sexual arousal.”
That’s because THC (delta-9-tetrahydrocannabinol), the active ingredient in pot, not only releases dopamine in the brain — causing the “high” — it actually replicates the effects of a sexy little naturally occurring neurochemical called anandamide.
But pot doesn’t always make sex better. For some people, it has the exact opposite effect. Which is helpful if you’re a monk.
Ascetics, monks and others have used marijuana to free themselves of sexual desire. Instead of connecting them to their bodies, sexual desires, or other people, it helps them meditate.
In the context of a sexual encounter, it can be tough to focus on making your partner come when your mind is busy contemplating the meaning of life. Or if being high makes you suddenly hyper-aware of everything that is wrong with your relationship.
The effects of smoking also depend on the person’s tolerance to the drug — a couple of tokes may get one person in the mood, while another user may need to get really high in order to feel a heightened sexual awareness.
Of course, when it comes to pot, you can have too much of a good thing. Heavy, long-term marijuana use can result in low motivation — including the motivation to have sex.
And whereas some folks report an increased libido — in one study, men said they achieved bigger, harder erections and women said they became wetter and were more able to achieve orgasm when stoned — others may report an inability to sustain an erection.
It is commonly believed that smoking marijuana causes reproductive system damage, having an effect on testosterone production and other hormones — which, in turn, can affect fertility, menstruation and erectile function, among other things. Pot prohibitionists like to haul out the “pot will lower your sperm count” argument, although studies on this produce conflicting results.
It is true that the cells of the reproductive system are very high in fat, and thus absorb and hold more THC than do most other cells in the body, a factor that leads some researchers to believe pot can lower testosterone levels. Apparently, in some cases, male pot smokers have developed “man boobs” because of localized fatty deposits.
Still, according to Novak, “There have been no epidemiological studies which have shown increased infertility in marijuana-using humans, and studies of overall reproductive rates have found no reduction in reproductive rates in countries where a higher rate of marijuana use is found.
And the National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws cites study upon study indicating that reported lower sperm levels return to normal once marijuana consumption had ceased.
So put that in your pipe and smoke it.