Between a bowl of green, Sexcereal to satisfy your morning munchies and Ganja Vibes toys..you’re about to be worn out!
We women believe the same to be true when it comes to our lady parts.
Happy wife = Happy life! Isn’t that the age-old adage? Why yes it is.
- Several studies have hypothesized that hormones released during arousal and orgasm, specifically oxytocin and DHEA, may also have protective effects against cancer and heart disease.
- Research has also pointed to the sedative and relaxing effect of oxytocin and other endorphins released during orgasm, which may explain why people use masturbation as a way to get to sleep, and why sex is a great way to deal with stress.
- Study has also found that orgasms can relieve migraine headaches.
- It’s also worth pointing out that orgasm and sex play in general can be a wonderful form of exercise. Frequent sex and orgasms can bring with it the benefit of other good cardio workouts.
It has been determined that prostate massage in men actually reduces the risk of prostate cancer. Could it not be just as important for women to know if draining the gspot could also provide health benefits? When the female prostate (gspot) has become enlarged or caused discomfort it is called female urethral diverticulum or female prostatitis. Many urinary tract infections (UTIs) have been incorrectly diagnosed and treated due to this disregard for the female prostate.
Even beyond the health aspects of female sexuality, women’s sexual pleasure is important solely for the sake of itself.
It is actually good for you much like the benefits of prostate massage for men. Because it cleanses the urethra it can also PREVENT UTI’s (Urinary Tract Infections).
A beautiful man once wrote:
“Once you’re properly positioned, there are a number of things you can do in order to rock her world.”
How often do you go down on your partner before intercourse?
And intercourse aside, how often do you engage in oral sex just for the sake of… oral sex?
If the numbers are low, I have to say: You and are your partner are missing out. I mean, I know. It can be near-impossible to resist diving in to sexy time penis first. But an intense session of cunnilingus can definitely add something to your intimate life that neither of you are getting from the same old in-and-out.
So what’s the big deal?
For one thing, giving her oral sex can be a great form of foreplay. Your partner may not have mentioned this to you, but women typically are not ready for intercourse after just one arm caress and a boob grope. They often prefer a warming-up period in order to become physically and psychologically aroused, which, in turn, makes it easier for them to experience pain-free sex and, perhaps, even reach orgasm(s).
But oral sex doesn’t even have to be used as foreplay. For a really intense sexual experience, try making cunnilingus the main event. In many cases, women orgasm more reliably from cunnilingus than they do from intercourse.
But you have do it right. Giving her oral sex is not as simple as merely thrusting your tongue into her vagina and making it do the wiggle. Nay. Mind-blowing oral sex requires some actual technique.
Mark Coriddi, author of The Mount Method: a Guide to Pleasuring Women, suggests first establishing a “mount.” Nope. Not a “dismount” (though cunnilingus does require a bit of oral gymnastics). Achieving a mount means that your mouth and her pubic area come together in such a way as to maximize the pleasure she experiences during your mouthy ministrations.
Both men and women have a mount. According to Coriddi, a man’s mount is the area of his upper lip just above his teeth. A woman’s mount, meanwhile, is the center of the pubic bone, where there is a slight cradle into which your mount naturally fits. “Connecting your respective mounts and maintaining that persistent connection throughout the process of arousal is essential to mind-blowing oral sex,” says Coriddi. “Specifically, it allows you to firmly place your mouth just where it needs to be for maximum stimulation of your partner’s clitoris.”
To make all of this easier, consider placing a pillow or two beneath her pelvis. It will make her hot spots easier to access. Once you’re properly positioned, there are a number of things you can do in order to rock her world.
First, warm her up by caressing her inner thighs, breathing naturally so she can feel your breath on her clitoris and on the other areas of her vulva. This will help build up anticipation, making her squirm for more as you prepare to really impress her. Then, once you’re ready, begin licking her like an ice cream cone, in long, thick strokes that cover the entire area down there.
Let your licks gradually build up in intensity before plunging in fully. Once you’ve reached a certain rhythm, try mixing things up (though you should remain mindful of how she’s responding to your touch; if she’s finding a specific rhythm or touch particularly pleasurable, she may never forgive you if you suddenly change course)
“Lick her senseless with a short burst of energy and then return to the flat, still tongue, waiting for yet another opportune moment to spring to life again.”
What else can you do down there? Use your lips to kiss her most intimate parts, alternating those particular kisses with smooches on her thighs. Lightly nibble and then suck on entire bits of her skin. The gentle suction will feel incredible, especially if you can still manage to continue using your tongue. Blow softly across her skin, teasing her with the new sensation. Don’t be nervous about experimenting with different approaches when giving her oral sex.
Once found, a skilled cunnilinguist rarely goes unappreciated. But if you’re not sure exactly how, just press a flat, still tongue against her vulva and let her do the work. It’s the cunnilingus equivalent of letting her get on top.
One of my favorite tongue techniques that I talk about in my book She Comes First is the “Rope-a-dope”– the strategy Muhammad Ali used to take down George Foreman during the edge-of your-seat Rumble in the Jungle. Let her push and grind against your flat, still tongue — take it all in — and then spring back with a series of fast vertical and diagonal tongue strokes. Lick her senseless with a short burst of energy and then return to the flat, still tongue, waiting for yet another opportune moment to spring to life again.
What’s most important while giving her oral sex is that you remain mindful of how she’s responding to you. As I write in The Cliterate Male, you should never assume your partner is as excited as you are. Even if she’s wet down there, her physical arousal may not be indicative of the psychological arousal she is — or isn’t — feeling. Instead, you should be focusing on these other signs of physical arousal:
-an increase in the pace of her breathing
-an increase in her body temperature and heart rate
-a high state of tension in her muscles
-a tightening of her abdominal muscles
-a throbbing of her pelvic muscles
-a general “bearing down” on the pelvic area.
As Coriddi so eloquently puts it, cunnilingus is “a delicate dance — and she’s leading you.” If she’s not exhibiting the signs above, continue to mix up your technique. If she’s showing one or multiple signs of arousal, for the love of god, don’t stop!
As you become more comfortable with the techniques above, you can even consider investing in a vibrating tongue ring, in order to pack some extra punch down below. But, honestly, you don’t need all those bells and whistles. You just need an enthusiasm for the job at hand — and a willingness to follow her lead.
Komisaruk, B.R., Beyer-Flores, C., & Whipple, B. The Science of Orgasm Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 2006.
This guy cares and so should you!
Positioning can change the whole ball game, mix it up!
It’s been a beyond-crazy week for Justin Timberlake. Just mere days away from the official release of The 20/20 Experience (March 19!), Justin’s been celebrating “Justin Timberweek” every single night this week on “Late Night With Jimmy Fallon” (we’re tired just thinking about it), complete with live performances of “Mirrors,” “Pusher Love Girl,” and the classic “SexyBack” (with a barbershop quartet!).
Now Justin’s debuted another new track from The 20/20 Experience (maybe you already read about it in our GIF album review?), “Strawberry Bubblegum.”
Decked out in varsity baseball-style jackets, Justin and his backup singers shook and finger-snapped their way through the R&B-tinged make-out anthem “Strawberry Bubblegum.” Then, building upon the performance’s sports theme, some additional backup dancers joined Justin onstage in full baseball uniform regalia. Why all the baseball hats and striped pants?? We can’t be too sure… Could it have something to do with baseball players and their penchant for chewing gum? If that’s the case, shouldn’t the song actually be called “Chewing Tobacco”? Er, never mind — all that matters is Justin can shimmy around the stage singing “My lips are strawberry strawberry bubblegum” ALL he wants — whether or not the costumes make sense is besides the point. Check it out below! And for goodness sake, stream The 20/20 Experience already!