Happy Birthday Mr. Willie Nelson

Before he was one of the most prolific album makers and recognizable figures in popular music, Willie Nelson was a humble songwriter who wrote hits for country stars like Patsy Cline and Faron Young. Nelson soon made his own name covering pop and C&W standards. His dry, wry voice and plaintive, understated delivery eventually helped him reach wider pop audiences. In the 1970s he spearheaded “outlaw” country — the non-Nashville alliance between “redneck” country musicians and “hippie” rock musicians. His stature grew exponentially throughout the 1980s with classic singles like “On the Road Again” and “Always on my Mind,” his participation in the supergroup the Highwaymen (with Kris Kristofferson, Johnny Cash, and Waylon Jennings) and the Farm Aid concerts he helped organize to benefit family farmers. Meanwhile, his problems with the Internal Revenue Service and leisure-time marijuana use made Nelson something of an “outlaw” for real — and a counterculture-style hero to many.

Nelson was born in Abbott, Texas, on April 30, 1933, and raised by his grandparents. He worked cotton fields until he was ten, when he began playing guitar in local German and Czech polka bands. He joined the air force, after which he attended Baylor University in Waco, Texas. Before dropping out, he sold Bibles and encyclopedias door-to-door, worked as a disc jockey and musician, and taught Sunday school. While teaching Sunday school in Fort Worth, Nelson was also playing honky-tonk clubs on Saturday nights; when his parishioners demanded he choose between the church and music, he chose the latter. He played bars around the country, taught guitar, and wrote songs.

With the fifty dollars he earned from his first published song, “Family Bible,” Nelson went to Nashville, where songwriter Hank Cochran got him a publishing contract. Nelson wrote pop and C&W hits for many artists: “Night Life” for Rusty Draper, “Funny How Time Slips Away” for Jimmy Elledge and Johnny Tillotson, “Crazy” for Patsy Cline, “Hello Walls” for Faron Young, “Wake Me When It’s Over” for Andy Williams, and “Pretty Paper” for Roy Orbison. Eventually, he had a recording contract of his own, but his weathered tenor and his taste for sparse backup were considered uncommercial.

When his Nashville home burned down around 1970, Nelson moved back to Texas, continuing to record, write, and perform. In 1972 he held his first annual Fourth of July picnic, featuring young and old rock and country musicians, in Dripping Springs, Texas — an event that would soon become a local institution. The Fourth of July was named Willie Nelson Day by the Texas Senate in 1975.

In Austin, Nelson also began to clarify his own ideas on country music, simultaneously reclaiming traditions of honky-tonk, Western swing, and early country music and giving the songs a starker, more modern outlook. Phases and Stages, a concept album produced by Arif Mardin, introduced Nelson’s mature style, and 1975′s Red Headed Stranger (Number 28 pop, Number One country), a “country opera,” made his music a commercial success. With a hit remake of Fred Rose’s “Blue Eyes Crying in the Rain” (originally recorded by Roy Acuff in the 1940s), the album went gold. In 1975 Nelson shared the compilation Wanted! The Outlaws (Number 10 pop, Number One country) with Waylon Jennings, Tompall Glaser, and Jessi Colter, three other country musicians ignored by the Nashville establishment; it was the first platinum country album.

Nelson and his band, which included his older sister Bobbie on piano, toured constantly through the 1970s and were a major concert attraction throughout the South and West before the rest of the country caught on. But by the end of the decade, Nelson was an established star, producing albums that consistently topped the country charts through the early Eighties and also fared well on the pop charts. Willie and Family Live (Number 32, 1978) went double platinum.

Meanwhile, Nelson’s songwriting tapered off; he did an album-length tribute to Kris Kristofferson and made duet albums with George Jones, Merle Haggard, and Ray Price. The 4 million-seller Stardust (Number 30, 1978), produced by Memphis veteran Booker T. Jones, was an album of old pop standards. For Honeysuckle Rose (Number 11, 1980), Nelson wrote one new song, “On the Road Again,” that became a Number One country single and a Number 20 pop hit. In the early Eighties Nelson had multiplatinum albums with Greatest Hits (& Some That Will Be) (Number 27, 1981) and Always on My Mind (Number Two, 1982), while maintaining his prolific output of music and films.

The first Highwaymen collaboration with Kristofferson, Jennings, and Cash (Number 35, 1985) went gold — as did the 1985 Half Nelson, though it reached only Number 178 on the pop albums chart. In 1984 Nelson dueted with Julio Iglesias on the Number Five pop hit “To All the Girls I’ve Loved Before”; in 1985 he helped launch the first Farm Aid concert for America’s embattled family farmers. Along with Neil Young and John Mellencamp, he has helped organize each succeeding Farm Aid benefit show.

Since the early 1970s Nelson has sported his standard attire: long hair and beard, headband, jeans, T-shirt, and running shoes. The latter four items were nearly the only possessions he had left after the IRS investigated him and in 1990 slapped him with a $16.7 million bill. Nelson was forced to auction off almost all of his possessions in 1991 (most of them reportedly bought by friends who vowed to return them to Nelson once he regained financial stability). To help raise desperately needed capital, Nelson sold Who’ll Buy My Memories? (subtitled The IRS Tapes) direct through an 800 telephone number. Nelson and the IRS eventually agreed to a $9 million settlement, and the singer sued the accounting firm of Price Waterhouse, claiming it had mismanaged his finances. More money came in through Nelson’s appearances in TV and radio ads for Taco Bell.
Nelson was inducted in the Country Music Hall of Fame in 1993. That same year, he recorded the acclaimed Across the Borderline (Number 75, 1993), on which such in-demand rock pros as producer Don Was (who had recently rescued Bonnie Raitt and the B-52′s from commercial oblivion) and mixer Bob Clearmountain recorded Nelson duetting with Bonnie Raitt, Sinéad O’Connor, and Bob Dylan, on tunes by Dylan, Paul Simon, Peter Gabriel, John Hiatt, and Lyle Lovett. Nelson followed that with Moonlight Becomes You, a Stardust-style album of old pop standards that began with a “hidden” track in which Nelson told listeners that the album was on independent Justice Records because no major label would gamble on releasing such a record. Be that as it may, Nelson moved to Liberty for his next recording, 1995′s Healing Hands of Time, another set of pop standards.

In 1996 he became the first country performer to sign with Island Records and released the self-penned, self-produced Spirit; he followed that with the critically acclaimed Teatro (Number 104, 1998), a collaboration with producer Daniel Lanois. Eclectic as always, Nelson then released a jazzy collection of instrumentals on 1999′s Night and Day.

The unpredictable Nelson began the new millennium releasing Milk Cow Blues, on which he revisited some of his older material. Nelson released Me and the Drummer, a collection that came with a scrapbook, the same year. In 2001 he issued a diverse collection of country classics, The Rainbow Connection, and in 2002 he released The Great Divide, a collection of adult pop-oriented covers which, at Number 43, was his highest-charting album since the early Eighties. Crazy: The Demo Sessions, a collection of his publishing demos from the early 1960s, was released on Sugar Hill in 2003, and later that year, Nelson teamed up with Ray Price again on Lost Highway Records for Run That By Me One More Time. He continued to work with Lost Highway records for It Always Will Be (Number 75, 2004), Outlaws and Angels (Number 69, 2004), and Countryman (Number 46, 2005), an attempt to incorporate reggae into his country sound.

In 2006, Nelson released You Don’t Know Me: The Songs of Cindy Walker, a faithful cover album followed by Songbird (Number 87, 2006), a collaboration with Ryan Adams and the Cardinals. Nelson then joined forces with country greats Ray Price, Merle Haggard and Asleep at the Wheel, for Last of the Breed (Number 64, 2007). Moment of Forever (Number 56, 2008) was produced by Buddy Cannon and Kenny Chesney, and was geared towards contemporary mainstream country music fans.

Ever the maverick, Nelson turned around and issued Two Men with the Blues, a critically lauded jazz-country fusion collaboration with Wynton Marsalis that topped the jazz chart and reached Number 20 on the pop chart. That year saw the publication of Texas writer Joe Nick Patoski’s definitive biography, Willie Nelson: An Epic Life. But that epic life was hardly over, as Nelson returned in 2009 with Willie and the Wheel (Number 90), another collaboration with Asleep at the Wheel, this time on a set of songs made famous by Western swing legend Bob Wills. That same year he also released American Classic, yet another set of pop standards.

Portions of this biography appeared in The Rolling Stone Encyclopedia of Rock & Roll (Simon & Schuster, 2001). Mark Kemp contributed to this story.

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National Honesty Day Observed April 30 in Promotion of Truth

By Ivana Kvesic , Christian Post Reporter
April 30, 2012|9:53 am

Today is National Honesty Day, when people are encouraged to be more honest and open in their everyday lives, in the workplace, and in interactions with others.

National Honesty Day was established in the 1990s by M. Hirsh Goldberg.

Goldberg is the author of several books and a former press secretary to a governor of the state of Maryland.

During the 1990mys Goldberg wrote, The Book of Lies: Schemes, Scams, Fakes, and Frauds That Have Changed the Course of History and Affect Our Daily Lives. He spent four years researching the lies that have changed the course of history before he wrote The Book of Lies, which was first published in May of 1991.

After finishing the book Goldberg became motivated to establish a National Honesty Day to encourage national honesty and truth.

National Honesty Day “encourages honesty in the workplace and the market place and to honor the honorable,” Goldberg has said of the holiday.

Some of the biggest lies in history include Bernie Madoff’s ponzi scheme, France’s Dreyfus affair, Richard Nixon’s Watergate scandal, and the anti-Semitic lies perpetrated by Adolf Hitler and his minister of propaganda Joseph Goebbels in Germany following World War I.

Goldberg chose to celebrate the virtue of honesty on April 30 as a way to end the month, which beings with begins with April Fools Day pranks, on a higher moral note.

Italy also celebrates its own National Honesty Day every year.

In Italy, National Honesty Day generally serves as a day to campaign against commercial manipulation and unfulfilled promises emanating from the private sector. The Italians typically celebrate National Honesty Day in December on the Sunday before Christmas Day.

source: http://www.christianpost.com/news/national-honesty-day-observed-april-30-in-promotion-of-truth-74089/

The Little Book of Big Breasts and The Little Book of Big Penis

Well-endowed models in handy travel-sized books

by Perrin Drumm in Culture on 23 April 2012


Whatever your persuasion, two of Taschen’s upcoming releases are sure to keep you satisfied. The Little Book of Big Breasts and The Little Book of Big Penis pack a punch in just 192 palm-sized pages. The 4.7 x 6.5-inch book is discrete enough to hide behind one of Taschen’s larger tomes—like The Big Book of Pussy, if you dare.

For breast lovers who like their ladies with lots of curves, 150 of the most celebrated breast models from the 1950s, ’60s and ’70s keep the book busting at the seams. Aficionados will no doubt recognize the well-endowed Virginia Bell, Joan Brinkman, Candy Samples, Chesty Morgan and Guinness Book of World Records holder for the biggest, Miss Norma Stitts. This isn’t simply a condensed version of Taschen’s 398-page celebration of breasts: 40% of the content is completely unique to this edition.

To even things out on the gender scale The Little Book of Big Penis is the same diminutive size with an equally big payoff. Also packed with new content not found in the larger version, it includes more than 150 gigantic jewels from the ’40s to the ’90s, proof that a tight package never goes out of style. Those in the know need to introduction to the hardware on David Hurdles of Old Reliable, Rip Colt of Colt Studio and Jim Jaeger of Third World Studios. No doubt you’ll discover a few new faces to love (and by faces we mean penises) in varying stages of arousal.



If you love them both, at $9.99 you can easily stock up to double your pleasure. Find them at Taschen and on Amazon.

source:http://www.coolhunting.com/culture/the-little-book-of-big-breasts-penis.php

Rock ‘n’ Roll Payola: Dick Clark and Alan Freed — In These Times


In 1954, Alan Freed moved to the radio station WINS in New York City, one of his last radio gigs before becoming embroiled in scandal. (Image circa 1954-56 via BBC)

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Rock ‘n’ Roll Payola: Dick Clark and Alan Freed
The converging and diverging histories of two all-American DJs.
BY LOUIS NAYMAN

Rather than end Clark’s career, the payola investigations boosted it. His entertainment empire expanded.

Dick Clark’s passing last week reminded me of a rock-and-roll “Christmas Jubilee” concert I saw at the Brooklyn Paramount Theater on Flatbush Avenue during Christmas break 1959.

A $2.50 ticket (paid for out of Bar Mitzvah loot), got me in to see Jackie Wilson, Bobby Rydell, the Detroit Wheels, Bo Diddley, the Isley Brothers, Sam Taylor, Johnny Restivo and half a dozen other acts, plus “Hound Dog Man,” a full-length feature film starring Philadelphia heart-throb Fabian (Forte) in his first Hollywood production.

The rock-and-roll impresario responsible for bringing this all together had been absent during most of the show’s New York run, attending to unavoidable personal business. But on the afternoon I was there, just as the house lights were set to dim for the movie, his familiar reassuring voice suddenly rose from center stage in a crescendo of brass, twanging electric guitars, and a culminating wave of foot stomping, whistles and applause. I don’t recall the exact words – this was more than 52 years ago – but the essence remains as clear now as when I was a 13-year-old from an upstate New York mill town bouncing in my seat along with 4,000 city kids. We knew something was happening here, and we knew what it was – knew it in our hearts and souls, if not yet our heads.

Rock ‘n’ Roll will be vindicated, is what we heard. Square America, go fuck yourself!

The personal business that had kept deejay and rock-and-roll tribune Alan Freed from emceeing the concert was his fight to avoid prosecution for hyping records on air in exchange for under-the-table cash. The practice came to be known as payola, connecting the word pay to Victrola, the original brand name for RCA Victor’s record player.

Payola ranged from flatout bribery – a promoter slipping a couple of hundred dollars to a deejay for playing a designated cut in heavy rotation over a specified time period – to more complex and legally nebulous arrangements involving fake songwriting credits, unearned royalty splits and hidden ownership interests in disc stamping plants, music distribution, publishing, talent management and record labels.

By the spring of 1960, Freed and his younger Philadelphia counterpart, Dick Clark, had been called to testify before the U.S. House of Representatives subcommittee on legislative oversight. The appearances went badly for Freed, and much better for Clark.

A career derailed

Freed, son of a Lithuanian Jewish clothing store clerk and a working-class Welsh-American mother in western Pennsylvania, had popularized rhythm and blues big beat music as a disc jockey via his Rock n’ Roll Party nightly radio program on the New York radio station WINS in the 1950s. He branched out to motion pictures and network television, showcasing artists such as Chuck Berry, Little Richard, Jackie Wilson, Clyde McPhatter and LaVern Baker. By 1958 he was hosting a daily radio program on WABC in New York and a television show on WNEW.

Along the way, Freed had accepted gratuities and “consultation fees” from record companies and promoters. He also “shared” songwriting credits and royalties with Chuck Berry for “Maybellene” and The Moonglows for “Sincerely.” When ABC demanded in November 1959 that Freed sign a prepared oath swearing he did not now nor had he ever received payment for promoting musical recordings on the air, Freed refused, asserting in a letter that compliance “would violate my self respect.”

He was immediately fired, and five days later was subpoenaed to appear before New York District Attorney Frank Hogan, which accounted for why fans didn’t see much of him during the Christmas Jubilee’s Paramount run.

Called to testify before the House subcommittee on legislative oversight in April 1960, Freed made for a less-than-sympathetic witness. Although not a Jew according to Halachic law (which confers religious identity through matrilineal descent), the Cleveland deejay’s swarthy complexion and prominent nose must have made him seem Jewish enough to the Dixiecrats and Northern Republicans who dominated the proceedings. Freed, after all, had made his reputation introducing “race music” to white kids during his nightly broadcasts and was known for a steadfast insistence on playing authentic original recordings instead of the more sanitized white covers.

In 1957, ABC cancelled his weekly television show, The Big Beat, because southern affiliates complained when an African-American guest artist, Frankie Lymon, was seen on a broadcast dancing with a white girl. And Freed was often photographed in the pages of magazines and tabloids wearing bright scarlet tuxedos or outsized window-plaid sport coats punctuated with a wispy silk bow tie favored by African American or white hillbilly artists. His image as a cultural subversive was cemented at a Boston concert that same year when he allegedly shouted to the crowd, “The police don’t want you to have fun,” which was said to have incited a street riot.

Ironically, what ultimately sealed his fate were Freed’s forthright itemized admissions to the committee concerning payments he had accepted from distributors and recording companies as a musical advisor. The fact that ABC had fired him for declining to sign a humiliating all-encompassing oath denying participation in corrupt practices, while not asking the same of the company’s other contract employee, Dick Clark, only deepened committee members’ and the press’ perception of Freed’s corruption. Less than a month after his testimony, the New York City police arrested the disgraced DJ on charges of having pocketed payola amounting to $116,850.

American grandstanding

Dick Clark, in contrast, made for a straight arrow and sympathetic witness. The son of a radio professional and solidly middle-class family, he had been brought up in Mount Vernon, N.Y., and earned a business degree at Syracuse University’s Whitman School of Management. His physical appearance before the committee was indistinguishable from the image television viewers saw every weekday between 4 and 5:30 p.m. – an affable well-mannered junior executive in a white shirt, unobtrusive tie, well-tailored grey business suit, engaging smile and straight neutral hair set perfectly with glistening tonic.

Clark became host of the Philadelphia rock-and-roll TV dance show American Bandstand in 1956, and took it national on ABC the following year. He was instrumental in launching the careers of local ethnic working-class performers Frankie Avalon, Fabian Forte, Bobby Rydell, and Connie Francis. With an eye for anticipating teenage trends and a talent for creating them, he eased the cross-over of African American artists by presenting them to the mainstream as novelty acts (Chubby Checker, Gary U.S. Bonds, the Coasters, Fats Domino), slow dance serenaders (The Platters), and nonthreatening girl groups such as the Supremes and Shirelles.

He was clearly backed by ABC when he appeared before the committee in 1960. (This likely had something to do with the fact that while Freed’s broadcasts brought the network annual revenues of $200,000, it earned $12 million from Clark’s show. Flanked by high-powered legal talent and a statistician, Dick Clark dazzled committee members with nonsequitors and masterful deflection.

Going into the hearings he had divested himself of financial interests in at least 33 conflict-of-interest music business enterprises. His professional numbers man produced charts and figures demonstrating that of all the records spun on his programs, Clark had a pecuniary stake in only 27 percent, and that those records attained a popularity rating of only 23 percent. While acknowledging that from time to time he may have received compensation for extramural music-connected services, Clark respectfully but firmly denied ever having taken payola or having broken the law, saying this was just the way the industry works.

In the end, Subcommittee Chair Oren Harris agreed, saying of his earnest and seemingly clean-cut witness, “I don’t think you are the inventor of the system, I think you are the product. Obviously, you’re a fine young man.”

Rather than end the broadcaster’s career, the payola investigations boosted it. His entertainment empire expanded to include production, distribution, publishing, promotion, pop and country music awards, quiz shows and Dick Clark’s Rockin’ New Years Eve. As the pop cultural revolution of the 1960s took a political turn, embracing the British revolution and psychedelics and turning against white-bread and bubble gum rock, Clark was well-positioned to concentrate on the business end of the business.

When he died at 82 in Malibu this month, Richard Wagstaff Clark was a multi-millionaire dozens of times over and a universally acclaimed cultural icon. Freed, after finally pleading guilty in 1963 to two of 99 counts of commercial bribery, was sentenced to pay a $300 fine and a six-month suspended sentence, after which he was put up on charges of federal income tax evasion. He thereafter descended into a spiral of itinerant radio gigs, alcohol addiction and isolation. He died in 1965, aged 43, of cirrhosis of the liver, without a pot to piss in.

In differing ways, both men were avatars of interracial crossover and cultural diversity, and – even if unwittingly – agents of political change. One was a smooth huckster and commercially savvy entrepreneur; the other embodied crude raw energy attuned more to music and soul than to self-preservation and business. To progress, America needed both. For that, Dick Clark merits such acknowledgement and deserves praise. But it’s Freed who gets my everlasting Kaddish.

ABOUT THIS AUTHOR
Louis Nayman is a longtime union organizer. The views expressed are his own.

Rock ‘n’ Roll Payola: Dick Clark and Alan Freed — In These Times.

Marijuana and Your Sex Life

Pot smokers most often label marijuana as sex-enhancing. But there are marijuana researchers who report studies that find that marijuana enhances sexual activity, and there are marijuana users who report that use of the drug enhances their sex lives.

Experts and Marijuana Users Disagree

Scientists most often label marijuana as sex-inhibiting. Pot smokers most often label marijuana as sex-enhancing. But there are marijuana researchers who report studies that find that marijuana enhances sexual activity, and there are marijuana users who report that use of the drug enhances their sex lives, inhibits their sex lives, or has no effect on their sex lives at all.

The scientific data on marijuana and libido are all over the map. But there are common sense reasons that one individual might find marijuana to be a turn-on and another might it to be a turn-off.

Marijuana and the Female Libido

When marijuana researchers refer to sexual difficulties caused by marijuana use in women, they are most likely to be referring to failures of ovulation, reduced likelihood of pregnancy even if a child is conceived (due to changes in the receptivity of the lining of the uterus to the embryo), and disruptions of the menstrual cycle. They are less likely to be referring to difficulties in achieving orgasm or loss of interest in sex.

There is some science to suggest that the endocannabinoids in marijuana may reduce genital arousal in women. Smoking marijuana has been suggested as a treatment for a condition known as persistent genital arousal disorder in women, which is most likely to occur in women who have bipolar disorder or who have suddenly stopped taking antidepressants.

But in most women genital arousal is only part of sexual stimulation. Disinhibition regarding touch may allow a woman to feel aroused along all of her erogenous zones, not just the obvious body parts such as the vagina and the breasts. Many women are stimulated on the midline of the abdomen, the nose, the indentation at the upper lip, the crown of the head, and the tip of the tongue.

Some women find that their sexual energy is too “hot” to control when they do not use marijuana or a similar calming drug. They find that their libido is manageable when they smoke pot. There are women who smoke pot prior to sex in part to feel more in charge of their lovemaking.

Is Marijuana a Negative or a Positive in Women’s Sex Lives?

Despite what experts warn, many women report that their sex lives are enhanced by the occasional use of marijuana. Regular use of marijuana, on the other hand, may be a major turn-off. As one woman put it:

“When we (the woman and her husband) first tried smoking pot before making love, it made every touch an ecstatic experience. But over the two years since my husband lost his job and started just sitting around the house smoking grass all day, the very sight of him makes me nauseous.”

Or as one man described his relationship, “When we’re tokin’, there ain’t no pokin’.”

The short-term effects of marijuana use on sexual enjoyment by women depend on whether dropping inhibitions are relevant to her sexual enjoyment. Not every woman needs to be disinhibited. The long-term effects of marijuana on sexual enjoyment by women are tied in to a number of factors that are not related to the biological effects of the drug, such as whether she and her partner can pay their bills.

Men, Sex, and Marijuana

Marijuana and beer have very similar effects on male testosterone levels—they both lower them. The hops used to flavor beer even contain natural 17-beta-estradiol, which can cause a condition known in Germany as “beer drinker’s droop.” Some men also have trouble achieving erections after smoking pot. But other men report that smoking marijuana gives them extra power in the bedroom. How can both sets of stories be true?

The simple fact is that people don’t always tell sex researchers the truth about their sex lives. However, physiologists also know that a chemical in marijuana called cannabigerol can increase the force of ejaculation and the intensity of orgasm.

Cannabigerol “kicks in” several hours after the tetrahydrocannibinol (THC) in marijuana makes the smoker high and gives them the “munchies.” In addition to increasing the intensity of orgasm, this chemical:

• Reduces the need for sociability. Men are less inclined to indulge in foreplay or conversation.

• Makes men less likely to act impulsively. They will be more in control of their sexual activities, but they will also be more response to rituals in their lovemaking. They will want to repeat other sexual encounters in the same way.

• Increases basal metabolic rate. Men become literally “hotter” and more energetic—after the initial effects of the drug wear off.

In a heterosexual couple, marijuana has different effects at different times for the different partners. Women become less inhibited shortly after smoking the drug. This may enable them to enjoy more whole-body stimulation (or it may be unnecessary).

While women are becoming receptive, men are simply getting stoned. Any increased sexual intensity for them occurs after the disinhibitive effects have already worn off for the female partner.

This site is not going to give anyone specific tips on how to use marijuana more effectively for lovemaking. (We don’t want the US Drug Enforcement Agency taking a special interest in our work.) And actually, there are no hard and fast scientific rules concerning whose lovemaking might get a bigger boost and when.

The bottom line is that men and women react to marijuana differently. The drug can help them overcome shyness when they are first together, but it can cause them to be out of sync as they get to know each other better. When the habit of smoking marijuana begins to interfere with work, finances, residential upkeep, or personal hygiene, then it tends to be a definite turn-off to good sex.

What about other, legal aphrodisiacs?

The best aphrodisiac for both men and women is exercise. An Italian study of men taking Viagra found that getting 200 minutes of outdoor exercise a week increased erectile strength, sexual confidence, satisfaction with intercourse, and general satisfaction with life.

For women, however, the exercise that most increases interest in sex is foreplay—especially on the days nearest to the midpoint of the menstrual cycle (when a woman is most likely to get pregnant). Creative physical activities that lead to the boudoir are most likely to enhance the female partner’s enjoyment of sex.

People don’t get arrested for exercise. They don’t have to buy it from a shady dealer. Exercise does not ruin promising careers. If marijuana has not enhanced your sex life, try something different. Physical activity can improve your health and improve your lovemaking.

source: http://www.steadyhealth.com/articles/Marijuana_and_Your_Sex_Life___Is_Marijuana_Sex_Inhibiting__Sex_Enhancing__or_Sex_Neutral__a2029.html?show_all=1

Why Do So Many Men Put Sex Before A Relationship?

Why is it that so many gay men put such a strong emphasis on sex before really getting to know a person?

While it’s flattering to have a man have such strong physical desires to be with you in an intimate manner, I’m not sure it’s good to put such an emphasis on sex before really getting to know a person. Intimacy is something that takes time to develop, yet we rush ourselves into this stage by trying to bypass other necessary steps like the building of interdependence between each other, the development of trust, the goal of full disclosure, etc. There’s no rule book which states that you must NOT have sex before entering into a relationship but is it really the best idea to do something that some of us might value a bit more than others?

Sex is a primal human desire but if you really feel that you care to get to know someone better you should probably be a bit more conscious of your primal desire and put it to the wayside until you feel they are ready for that type of intimacy within the relationship. Some of us desire a sort of intellectual intercourse rather than a physical one. Sex is great and it’s important in a relationship but becoming closer with a potential suitor is more important to me personally.

Remember that sex is everywhere. You can get it at almost any time of any day. You can devalue it all you want or you can let it devalue you. You can have sex prior to a relationship and probably still have a relationship depending on the synchronicity between the parties involved. You can have sex at any age. You can make the decision to be promiscuous or keep sex more sacred.

You can’t meet an amazing person any day. You can’t build trust with a person instantly. You won’t go up to a stranger and give them full disclosure. You won’t meet a potential lover every day. You won’t get to always share those amazing moments with someone you really care about. You won’t always get that person that really wants to know who you are inside and out.

When you do meet that person that wants to ask you questions, learn about you, smile at you, be patient with you, compliment you, give you full disclosure, tell you their secrets but not take your clothes off right away….be happy about it. That’s a very rare diamond in the rough.

-Chris Ryan

source: http://www.selfspectrum.com/2012/01/why-do-so-many-men-put-sex-before.html

Let's Be Blunt: It's Time to End the Drug War

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Let's Be Blunt: It's Time to End the Drug War - Forbes.

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By Art Carden

April 19, 2012


April 20 is the counter-culture “holiday” on which lots and lots of people come together to advocate marijuana legalization (or just get high). Should drugs—especially marijuana—be legal? The answer is “yes.” Immediately. Without hesitation. Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200 seized in a civil asset forfeiture.

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